Reposting, because I cant edit and wanted to clarify somethings:
I just read this and is is spot on!
https://www.allthingsworn.com/blog/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-sub
Now I understand what this site is and its business at its core. Thats ok - but the article nailed it.
Sissy/sub stuff is much more than a video on the internet shows you. Thats just a piece of it, and depending on what youre looking at, might not even do it for everyone.
My own ideal circumstances would be to be owned/dominated by 1-3 women, but not 'used' in a sense of just being more money for the household. It would need to be an extremely rare situation where I was a valued and cared for member of the household but also owned if that makes any sense. I would want to do their dishes, cook for them, not just 'pull my weight' but make their lives so much better by helping and doing things for them. It could even be a situation comfortable enough for me to not even have to dress up as a sissy but just have my cage on like a good boy. I would prefer to of course, but its not always possible even with the right lifestyle for it. I also do 'guy stuff' like work on cars, fix things around the house etc. Boy mode is probably necessary at times.
Its not *just* about the sexual side of it, though that is very, very important too. Gently eating out, enjoying all of 'her' from feet to booty and everything else, or maybe shes a little more aggressive. Its fine either way. One on one, multiple, even a relationship/situation with a bi couple where one doesnt really participate or 'receive' is fine. Theres lots of flexibility there. Its not *just* about the sex, its about the big picture.
The cage is also a very necessary part of this - it keeps you in a constant state of submissive, obedient arousal. As much as Id enjoy being denied any use of my masculine bits, they would also need to enjoy denying me, controlling me, and ONLY if they see fit, release. Otherwise, Im perfectly content to enjoy all of their wonderful scents and tastes and touch without uncaging. 'Femdom' doesnt have to be like porn; it can be a very gentle, caring yet still dominating experience. You can be a valued member of the relationship/household without it being 100% cruel and humiliating - though that stuff does have its time and place ;)
The right situation would also include doing things before told to - my owners wouldnt even have to tell me to do things because Id already be doing them! A good sub doesnt even have to be ordered around. Theyre proactive.
And to add to that, it would also be perfectly ok to be an open relationship - there is nothing wrong with bringing men to do what Im not allowed to do for them. I would also be very open to doing things for men if they wanted me to; its all open to whatever works in the relationship and/or household. I would just want her (or them) to be happy with everything we're doing here.